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Intimate Partner Violence (IPV), formerly known as Domestic Violence (DV), is a complex epidemic, and IPV and DV are sometimes used interchangeably. This epidemic affects people from all walks of life. Country, religion, laws, money, culture, personalities, family, friends and a plethora of other factors act either as barriers or useful resources in the combat against IPV; there is no easy solution to a seemingly simple problem.
This book is the story of a survivor. It offers an in-depth look into the mind of a victim, who became a survivor.
I am a Jamaican woman who migrated to the United States of America (U. S. A). I was abused while living in the U. S. A. This book tells of the experience I had in America and how I broke free. I would have had a very different experience in many ways had I been abused in Jamaica – in some ways good and in others bad.
Based on my experience, I can speak strongly. I have vast knowledge to share on the complications of being abused by a police officer and a member of the Armed Forces, and how to exit intimate partner violence as an immigrant.
No two abusive relationships are the same. Like an illness, the symptoms might be the same, but the treatment has to be individualized to be effective, regardless of the continent you live on, the religion you practice, your financial status, and every other factor that affects you. This is an encouragement for you.
Based on my personal experiences, knowledge absorbed, lessons learned, and wisdom gained, I created a spark in a book that is intended to ignite a fire in you. This book is not intended to judge or to preach to you, but to provide help, inspiration, healing, and knowledge.
This book is divided into metaphorical Seasons. Spring provides context on my life from birth to eleven years old. Summer from twelve to sixteen years old. Autumn from seventeen to twenty-two years old. Winter from twenty-three to twenty-five years old. It will be concluded with another Spring, namely ‘Spring has Sprung’, spanning the time in my life from twenty-six years old to a few weeks before the publication date.
The earlier Seasons are meant to provide ‘contextual entertainment’. They are written in a light-hearted mood and are intended to inspire. The later Seasons are meant to relate, educate, encourage, and provide self-help as it relates to intimate partner violence. The complications of exiting an abusive relationship are written in a pressing tone. Contemplation and work on one’s self is recommended.
This book is not theory or research-driven, but instead driven by my own personal experience. The core of this book is a story of defeats, triumphs, lessons learned, advice, and hope (the power of a story).
I have also included in this book the use of my birth country’s dialect ‘patois’, followed by the English translation and/or meaning. I did this for three reasons; 1) I love ‘patois’, 2) some things are best said in ‘patois’ rather than in English, and lastly, 3) sharing is caring. I did not want to be selfish, so I decided to share the richness of my culture with the good people of the world. Please enjoy this bite-sized portion of Jamaica.
Incidents are not detailed, to prevent both the reader and author from being triggered and, or, re-traumatized. The tone of the book is healing from hurt, not reliving hurt. Climatic Disasters are used as characters’ names, to avoid personal identification.
Parts of this book were written specifically for victims of abuse, such as the support system for victims, survivors of abuse, and counselors of abuse victims. Take all you can from your portion. I encourage being a glutton for knowledge. Fully indulge in your portion and the portion your hands and eyes can reach out to. Though this book focuses on domestic abuse, the lessons learned and advice given can be related to other forms of abuse.
Our personalities are largely responsible for the choices we make, including our frame of mind, coping mechanisms, career path, choice of partners, among much other life-changing decisions. The psychology behind personality excites and fascinates me.
My personality played a significant role in how I accepted, refused to accept, coped, and exited an abusive relationship. Understanding and getting a deeper insight into one’s self is advantageous; I highly recommend it. A free personality test is available here: https://www.16personalities.com/.
The accurate description of who I am, why I do things the way I do them, as well as my strengths and weaknesses, shed light and connect the dots of my previous life choices. Accepting and embracing my personality-type cleared the way for me to overcome and grow from my experiences; to grow from victim to victor.
I credit writing this book to the inspiration I received from God.
ABOUT THE BOOK
Victim to Victor: Breaking Free from Intimate Partner Violence into a life of Healing, Joy & Strength
Intimate partner violence (IPV), formerly known as Domestic Violence (DV) is an epidemic that affects people from all walks of life, and it tends to leave the victim feeling lonely, hopeless, and defeated. Country, religion, laws, money, culture, personalities, family, friends and a plethora of other factors act as either a barrier or useful resource in the combat against IPV.
In this intimate review of the Seasons of her life, the author, a Jamaican woman who immigrated to the United States of America, speaks about her experience with IPV and how she found her strength in the adversity of being abused by a police officer. Samantha shares her vast knowledge of how to break free from intimate partner violence into a life that is filled with healing, joy, and strength.
This book is the story of a survivor and the defeats, triumphs, lessons-learned, advice, and hope experienced throughout the Seasons in her life. It offers an in-depth view of the mind of a victim and a survivor. It is a perfect read for:
- Survivors of abuse;
- People currently caught in the cycle of abuse and wishing to break free;
- Counselors looking for deeper insight into the psyche of a victim;
- Friends and family of the victim, who are affected by the abuse.
Incidents are not detailed – to prevent both the reader and author from being triggered and or re-traumatized. The tone of the book is healing from hurt, not reliving hurt.
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